Are you ready for your first baby but don’t know what to expect from Pregnancy?
Keep reading and find out about My Top 10 Pregnancy Facts that every first-time mom needs to know about!
Pregnancy hit me like a truck. There were so many things I was unaware of and that really surprised me. Most of the time I felt pretty lost and overwhelmed. Let me tell you, those 9 months had some ups and downs ready for me. Obviously, all went well and I gave birth to a healthy baby girl in August. Still, those months could have been a lot easier if I knew about certain things…
That’s why I would like to share these Surprising Pregnancy Facts with you. I want you to know what to expect. I want you to feel comfortable in your pregnancy so that you can actually enjoy every part of it.
Please keep in mind: I don’t want to scare you with these pregnancy facts or keep you from getting pregnant. It is a beautiful experience and there are many enjoyable parts of it. But there are some less enjoyable parts as well.
1. Pregnancy Is Hard
This is probably the most important fact on the list. Pregnancy is not what all those movies, shows, and shiny Instagram posts make it look like. Sure, it’s magical and an amazing experience, but IT IS HARD WORK, you guys.
So if you ever feel weak or just sick of your pregnancy, don’t worry. You are not the only one and there is nothing wrong with just taking a step back and stay at home instead of going out to meet someone or run errands.
When I found out about my pregnancy, I was prepared for the morning sickness, and the discomfort, but we, as women, are made for this. Right?
Well yes, we are, but that doesn’t make carrying around an (in my case) 10 lbs, rib-kicking baby any easier.
Speaking of morning sickness…
2. Morning Sickness
You probably heard about that famous morning sickness: Pregnant woman wakes up in the morning, feels a little bit of nausea, throws up, and moves on with her day. Well, guess what, you are so WRONG!
Lucky me, I never actually threw up, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t have to deal with nausea. Not only in the morning, no ma’am, but that feeling also stayed with me ALL DAY LONG. This not so magical part of pregnancy would not stop for three whole months. Some women even deal with “All Day Sickness“ throughout their entire pregnancy and have to throw up every single day…
Lucky you, I wrote a post about „How To Deal With Morning Sickness“ for you to read.
Not only did I feel sick without a reason for the entire day, oh no, every time I tried to eat something to feel better, or even thought about any kind of food, I felt even worse.
One of the exciting and enjoyable parts of pregnancy: You don’t have to deal with your period for a couple of months. Yikes. Well, the excitement won’t stay for very long. Although you may have a short break from your period, keep some panty liners close by!
There will be some discharge. And with some, I mean A LOT! It won’t be fun, to say the least. It will get even worse towards the very end, especially once you start losing your mucus plug.
You have no idea what that is? Then you should probably read my posts about „Sings Your Labor Is Close“.
4. The Looks vs. The Feels
What I mean by that: Once you’re pregnant, your entire world changes. You are so aware of your new roommate ALL THE TIME. You even have to change your lifestyle when it comes to food, beverages, and various activities.
The moment you find out about your pregnancy, you feel pregnant, so you act pregnant. But most women keep their pregnancy a secret for the first trimester, which means: Not so many people besides you know about your pregnancy, so they won’t treat you any differently either.
Since it takes a good amount of time for a first-time-mom-belly to show, everyone around you will think that nothing has changed. All I wanted was to tell people about the little miracle growing inside me, about the changes I am going threw and all the things I am worried about. But I couldn’t, at least for quite some time. Just don’t be frustrated, it will get better.
Frustration leads me right to the next fact…
5. Mood Swings
Sure, everyone heard or read about the hormonal changes that pregnant women go through. Hormonal changes lead to mood swings, it’s like you’re on your period. So obvious…
Well, take it from me, I wasn’t expecting that kind of mood swings. I went from crying over commercials with a baby in them, to hysterically laughing about a cat sitting on a couch to screaming at my husband because he forgot to take out the trash. Sounds normal? Well, all of those emotions happened in a short time frame of only 3 minutes.
Of course, every woman is different, so every woman reacts differently to those changes. Just be prepared for some challenging days with rage, happiness, and sadness in them.
6. Use The Pregnancy Card
Think about a day in your life where you arranged a night with an old friend. You were excited about the day for a few weeks, the day finally arrived and you just don’t want to go out. Either you had a long day at work or just feel like staying in bed and watching your favorite show.
You can’t just cancel on your friend. They will be mad, right? They probably will be, but not if you’re pregnant.
Everyone knows: Pregnant women have to get a lot of rest. They also have to make sure they don’t overexert themselves. So if you don’t feel like going out, just pull the pregnancy card on your friends: „Sorry dear friend, I had a very long day and I feel very uncomfortable, so I should probably take a rest instead.“
They will understand and you can continue binge-watching your favorite show on Netflix.
One of the things that probably annoyed me the most about pregnancy was all the advice that people would try to give me. Just keep in mind: Everyone will know what is best for you and your baby during your pregnancy. Even after your baby is born they will know best about raising your child and what your child needs.
The only advice you will need: Don’t listen to them. Or even better, listen to them and then forget all about it right after the conversation is over. You are pregnant, you are going to be a mom, so only YOU know what’s best for you and your baby!
8. Love And Desire
This one is probably so different for everyone. Probably even for every pregnancy.
Well, during my first pregnancy, I didn’t necessarily love my husband all the time. He got me mad, sometimes even furious. It’s not like he did anything wrong, most of the time, his presence was enough for me to freak out and start a huge fight.
I know it sounds bad, don’t worry, I always apologized afterward and he was very understanding. Still, it was pretty hard for both of us and I feel like all those emotional breakdowns led to a decreased sexual desire. Which was probably even worse for my husband than the actual fights…
Don’t be scared, some women even have a stronger libido during pregnancy than before. After birth, everything went back to normal for me and I love my husband more than ever. So be patient with yourself and your partner.
Just be prepared for some changes and make sure to talk openly about it!
9. You Are Stronger Than You Think
Not only are you able to grow a human being inside your body, no mama: You are able to give birth to that baby, nurture, teach, love, and support them for the rest of their lives.
There will be days where you doubt yourself and your ability to be a mom. There will be days you can’t stop thinking about the upcoming labor and the birth process, you will probably get scared. Don’t be scared. You are meant to do this. You can do this!
Don’t compare yourself to any other pregnant woman. They will probably only tell you about the good parts and how perfect everything is going. Well, guess what: They are scared too. They just don’t want anyone else to know about it, because just like you, they are probably scared of being judged by others.
Listen to your body, talk about your fears, and just try to focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses! Most importantly: Never forget how strong and magical you are. Never forget to be proud of yourself!
10. You Are Not Alone
Whenever you feel like you can’t handle it anymore. Talk to someone. Either your partner, your family members, or some close friends. Try to find someone you trust and don’t be ashamed to talk about the negative parts. IT’S OKAY!
Complaining about your pregnancy, even if it’s a healthy and easy one, does not mean you don’t appreciate it. Sometimes we complain about our partners, that doesn’t mean we don’t love them. Right? It’s the same thing.
If you are afraid of being judged, try to find a group with pregnant women. There are different options to meet other companions, like pregnancy yoga, birthing classes, or Facebook groups. Find someone that feels the same way and try to help each other out.
Just always remember: It’s going to be fine. Pregnancy won’t last forever and in the end, it’s all worth it.
Check out my other Pregnancy related Posts:
- 5 Steps To Take At The Beginning Of Your Pregnancy
- 5 Things Every Husband Needs To Know About Pregnancy
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